OUCH – it’s been quite some time since I’ve posted and maybe some of you are wondering why. First off, I do apologize as I know some of you check back from time to time. But thank you so much for dropping by, I always appreciate the support!
I’m going to write about this once and that’s all. I will be finished with this subject and make peace with myself after this blog post.
I guess I can only explain my absence as being super unmotivated by social media – namely, Instagram’s frequent changes coupled with all of the dishonesty and unethical behavior by way too many “influencers”, bloggers and content creators. I totally get it – Instagram is a business and they want us to start paying into our business on their app. Sounds fair to me. I have no issues with that. But I’m struggling with the fact that many I’ve met and followed on Instagram have been or are starting to behave unethically. The fact that I know and have met and chilled with these people is what makes me sad, frustrated and left disappointed. Maybe you are in the same position as myself. And you can relate to how I feel about this issue. I’m happy to hear I’m not alone!
Many times I find myself at the “follow” button of Instagram and about to hit unfollow. Then I think of the great times we’ve had and how lovely they are in person. And I find myself trying to understand why they chose to go this route. At the conclusion of it all, I do believe it’s a business decision. But in my opinion, not a very honest or wise one. It’s frustrating to see them work on brand campaigns, knowing full well they are lying and cheating on their numbers and engagement. Some are actually so great at hiding it, it’s almost undetectable. But if you look closely, it’s easy to spot a cheater, especially if you know what you’re looking for.
And no, I don’t really have that much time on my hands to care about every person I’m suspicious about. But when I suspect it of a friend, and it’s true, I feel truly sad and disappointed. They can blame it on Instagram’s changes all they want, but in the end, that was the choice they made. And it’s a choice I cannot respect. I myself could never live with a lie like this. To build yourself up with nothing but a fake reality – I would feel ashamed and embarrassed, and I would constantly be living in fear that someone could find out at any moment and my career could be derailed. HELLO. I’m the someone who found out. And if I know, it’s likely others know. They may not want to talk about it, but it’s time for me to break the silence.
My close blogger friends and I talk about this issue frequently. It truly breaks our heart when we find out another has succumbed to the darkness of social media. Thank goodness we have each other to keep us focused and strong. THANK YOU LADIES – you know who you are. I’m in the same boat as many as I myself am struggling to hit the engagement that I once had and also grow like I once did. And any honest grammer would know what real engagement looks like.
These are not bad people. They are actually so kind and caring, supportive and super talented! Maybe they just found themselves going down a dark road in which they may not feel it’s easy to turn back from.
So here is my plea.
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN:
I understand that we’re human and make mistakes and maybe that isn’t the person you ever wanted to become. Whatever reason that brought you to this place of dishonesty, it doesn’t make it right to make a living out of a lie. You could very well have cheated a fantastic opportunity away from a deserving and honest person. But it’s never too late to stop and do the right thing. I know it’s going to be tough, and people are going to see the real you. But I will respect you for being brave enough to stop. My hope is that you will be proud of what you’ve achieved, knowing you are doing something you love and are 100% real and honest about it. Now on the other hand, if this all comes down to being a business decision and you don’t see anything wrong with it, then cool. We can agree to disagree and this is probably where we part ways in our Instagram friendship.
With everything that has changed within this once happy community, I am still thankful for all of the opportunities social media has provided me. And after this post, I will stop these negative thoughts that invade me whenever I log into the app. I want my Instagram feed to be a place where I once found happiness and inspiration. Where I can interact with people that support each other but are also real and honest.
I don’t mean to be a big baby and cry about it. But I’m happy to finally get it off my chest. Even if this doesn’t pertain to you, at least it gives you insight into the influencer world and just one of the many interesting tidbits about it.
Thank you so much for reading and I promise, only positive posts from now on!!! Enjoy the denim on denim outfit, shot in my fav city, London! 😀